I remember after 11 years of being married and going out “into the world”, I discovered REAL sex. My husband was my “first” and I didn’t have much experience beyond that. No we did not wait to have sex. If I had told him no, we would never have been married. (There’s something to be learned here, ladies!) There were good and bad things about getting back into the dating world and not knowing The Truth.
Back then, I truly believed that only virgins were supposed to wait to have sex. I had never picked up the Bible and I even had the misbegotten notion that the word “fornication” meant cheating on someone. Wow. I could say I was really stupid, but I was just very ignorant. I had never sought out the truth. But God had to allow me to go down some really bad, lonely, and even immoral paths in order to WANT to seek out the truth and LEARN! So I learned things the hard way first…
I learned that sex can be GREAT! Who would have thought that would be a revelation after years of marriage? But I also learned a few things the hard way. (I’m very hard-headed). I learned that if I had sex with a guy the same night I met him, that it would DEFINITELY be a one-night stand. (duh…) Wasn’t THAT a no-brainer (I say this, looking back with 20/20 glasses). I learned that when a guy didn’t call, it HURT! I felt used. I learned that if they did want me around, it was only for one thing and that lasted until something new came along. Most of these are no-brainers for mature, Christian women. But I wasn’t a Christian, though I thought I was.
Have you ever glued two pieces of construction paper together? Visualize pasting a piece of pink paper to a piece of blue paper. Let the glue dry. Now pull the pieces of paper apart. You can’t? It tears? It also leaves pieces of blue on the pink and pieces of pink on the blue. This is symbolic of sex. It’s meant for marriage (no tearing or holes)! Every time a man and woman have sex, they are “one”. If you have a one-night stand, you have just permanently torn a small piece of your soul! If you’ve slept with man after man and he’s slept with a lot of women… that’s a lot of tearing.
Now picture taking those same pink and blue pieces and gluing them to other pinks and blues. Try to take them apart. There are now other pink pieces on blue pieces on pink pieces, etc. etc. Get the picture? it’s the same with sex. We’re tearing our souls and leaving pieces, whether it’s in our emotional love tanks, unwanted memories that pop up, unwanted men that pop up, diseases, or even unwanted pregnancies. That’s a lot of risk for a few moments of unblessed behavior, isn’t it? This is true whether you’re a 16-year-old virgin or a 55-year-old divorced woman.
God has a wonderful plan for sex. He has a definite and wonderful plan for YOU! I would love it if anyone of you would take a pink and blue piece of construction paper, glue them together in a way that you can see both colors and then frame it somehow. This would be a definite reminder of God’s plans. You could even write a Bible verse on it or below it.
Here are some suggestions:
Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “The two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” (1 Cor 6:16)
…Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. (1 Cor 6:13b)
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Cor 6:19-20)
Be blessed, my sisters and please place some weight on this advise. It’s sent to you with the truest of concerns and love. You are loved by our wonderful Creator. Embrace it and rejoice! God bless!