You know that I’m constantly telling you to guard you heart, listen to your mind, go with what you know… Allow me to give you a hypothetical situation.
Say you meet a guy and the sparks are FLYING! Eventually you have sex and you even end up married. You may even have a baby or two. And then the unthinkable happens! He’s hurt and ends up in a wheel chair. He has no functions below the waist. Sex is out of the question. Because you’ve been married for a while, the sparks had already settled down and the kids have definitely put a damper on the romance department. Here are the tough questions:
Can you honor your vows, “for better or for worse?” Can you entertain each other with your wits and conversation? Would your actions speak always of the deep love you have? Is he an honorable man that you can look at him with absolute love and honor him with your devotion? Was sex just the icing on the cake or was it the whole dessert?
Now let’s flip the situation. You’re married and have kids and YOU are the one who ends up in the wheelchair. Does your love run strong enough and deep enough for him to take care of you and not have sex? Or would you be worried that this man will “need” sex so badly that he’ll have another woman on the side? Or even leave you stranded with the kids? (I’ve seen it happen.) Or even, take the kids and leave you high and dry?
Is your love deep enough to stay true to each other? Can your marriage handle the financial and emotional strain?
There is only one way to find out before the scenario could ever happen. Take sex “off the table” as part of your dating habits. God knows what He’s doing when He asks us to not have sex outside of marriage. This is just one scenario that COULD happen and it’s very scary. Can you ignore the “sparks” and look deeper into the character of the man who’s caught your eye? What about YOU? Can you look deeper into yourself and know that you have the character to rise to this occasion? If the answer is no to either, then let’s save the divorce statistics! Don’t marry someone you can’t rely on and don’t get married until you know you would be able to give that much of yourself to the marriage.
You are loved, SO loved by our Holy Father. Honor Him, sisters. Honor Him with your bodies
I appeal to you therefore, brothers,by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world,but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.