Have you ever asked yourself if maybe you’re slipping on things that you compromise on, and then wonder why Mr. Right really isn’t? In particular, I’m talking about if the guy calls himself a Christian, but doesn’t go to church, doesn’t serve in church, won’t pray, etc, but you think there are “possibilities” and you continue to date him, is that necessarily a good compromise? Personally speaking, I don’t think so.
If God is first in our lives, and He should be; If we want a man to sit next to us in a church service; If we want a man to pray over us, with us, and for us; then we CAN NOT compromise on this!
But, you ask, how can I judge someone? The Bible says I shouldn’t! Aha! Yes, but it does tell us to judge by the fruits of Christians, right?
“15 Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves. 16 By their fruits ye shall know them. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? 17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but the corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.” Matthew 7:15-18
If a man calls himself a Christian, then we are allowed to judge him and we SHOULD! Do you really want to invest yourself in a relationship where YOU are the one trying to change someone when God is telling us to be equally yoked and to judge by their fruits? It’s almost always guaranteed failure. Other things you can compromise on (the every day, small things), but going to church, serving, praying… these should be FIRST on your list and never, ever should they be compromised on. “Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called and about which you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” 1 Timothy 6:12