Many, many, many women (and men), both single and divorced, spend their “alone years” longing to be married. I warn you sisters, allowing yourself to long and be discontent can become a habit. So much so, that if/when you actually do get married again, you could easily find discontentment in your mate!
I know, I know. I can hear you saying, “No, not me! If I had a husband, I’d treat him like a King! I’d make him so happy that he’d never hurt me.” <Game show buzzer sound> WRONG ANSWER!!
First of all, if you can wake up in the morning and just concentrate on God’s will and your family and/or job and find satisfaction at the end of the day… maybe you’re actually ready for a husband! Your heart should be overflowing with contentment so that you actually bring that into a marriage. Guess what? Then you won’t find yourself trying to PROVE that you’re worthy of his love… You already know that you are.
Next, and this is important. If you squander your singleness by longing for a mate, instead of longing to be in the middle of God’s will, how many opportunities are you going to miss out on?
And did you know that the act of longing for something, the feeling of your desires not being met, can become habit! I’m dead serious. So if Mr. Right actually does come into your life and you get married… it’s hard to handle his flaws. And YES he will have some, I promise! Within a few years, you’ll find yourself longing for the greener pastures of being single… Staying discontent is habit-forming. Break the habit before you bring it into a marriage. A mate will not ‘fix” you. You need to be content already and you know what? It will be one more thing that he’ll love about you.
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.