If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
That sounds logical, doesn’t it? Simple. But I know of women who have decided that the only way they can be happy is to be the mistress. Or what about the 16-year-old who’s seeing a boy that her parents have forbade her to see? There are even women who date a man who keeps his relationship from his EX-spouse!
Sisters, one of the wonderful things about living in Christ, is that we are free in the TRUTH! If a man is asking you to keep your relationship a secret, no matter WHAT the reason, dump him. That’s pretty blunt. But there are NO excuses for secrecy.
The first thing I know when someone tells me something like this, right up front, is that there is sex involved; otherwise, who would care? Sex outside of marriage is wrong. I don’t know how many ways to say it. How many ways does God have to spell it out to us?
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
And 1 Corinthians 6:13b, 18 tells us, “Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without (outside) the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.”
Many, many years ago I met a man and he asked me on a date in a town a few miles away. I thought it was a little strange since we lived in the same town, but I met him there in a public venue. We were getting along just fine; laughing and enjoying getting to know each other. All of the sudden, he sat back in his chair and started looking like he was really uncomfortable. I finally asked what was wrong and he said that some girlfriends of his ex-wife had walked in and that he couldn’t be seen with another woman. WHOA! Maybe he was lying about being married, maybe there were other reasons for his dilemma. I didn’t stick around long enough to find out. Was that God, or what?
Sisters, the bottom line is that God loved us enough to give us his SON! He loved us enough to die for us. No woman has to put up with being put in a corner, kept in the dark, or being put into any situation where her self-esteem is going to be damaged. Period.
You are a Princess! You are heiress to a throne! I’m not saying to go out and act holier-than-thou… I AM saying, hold your head up. Guard your body AND your heart. Stand on your Godly principles. You are loved! You don’t need the love of a secret-keeper. Amen? #GodlyWomen