Many years ago, I was on my knees, crying to a God I wasn’t sure existed, “God, send me someone so that I can stop this hurt.  He hurt me so badly.  I love him so much!  Please send someone quickly to heal this hole.”

Boy, I was so lost.  I was so lonely.  I was so wrong.

1. The hole I needed to be filled had nothing to do with a man, although I didn’t realize it at the time.  I was pretty sure of a Grand Designer, but I had absolutely no relationship with Jesus Christ.  That was the hole that truly needed filling.
2. I was trying to cast my “healing” on someone else!  I was trying to make it their responsibility to make me happy.  How obtuse!  I was the one who had made the horrible mistake of sleeping with a man outside of marriage.  I was the one whose soul was torn.  I needed to take on that responsibility.  It was up to me to take the time to heal…  And ladies, I’m talking at least a year; maybe more.
3. It was time for me to realize that there was more to dating.  It was time for me to start asking questions about God and His expectations of me.  And I did.  I started seeking answers.  I found sermons on the radio as a start.  I had to force myself to keep the radio tuned because I loved, loved, loved secular music.  Eventually the words started penetrating.

The rest of my testimony is in my book, but you get the message.  Don’t try to fill that broken heart with another relationship.  It will backfire to such an extent that you may not know how to handle it.

Most of my readers are mature Christians and this is a “duh” story.  But I know there are readers who are scratching their heads, you don’t understand fully.  You’re lonely, you’re searching for answers.  Send me a message.  I’d love to talk.  I’m not promising you’ll like the answers, because you will need change in your life and more than likely you don’t want to change.  But as Dr. Phil is famous for saying…  “How’s that working for ya?”

I can promise there is hope and joy waiting for you.  Ask questions.  Matthew 7:7 says, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”  Knock, ladies…  Don’t hesitate to knock.  #Godlywomen