The Need to be Touched

After many years of being celebate, I remember driving 4 hours to a wedding. A young man whose mother is still a very dear friend, was getting married. I drove there alone. I went to the rehearsal dinner alone. I got up the next morning with about 6 hours to kill before the wedding. I ended up going to the mall to get a manicure/pedicure. I really couldn’t afford to do it, but they were running a special and I just REALLY wanted to treat myself.

So I was sitting in the chair, and the young woman was massaging my legs and then my arms. I started crying! I was HORRIFIED! She pretended not to notice and I got out of there as fast as I could. Once I got to my car, I sat there and tried to analyze what had just happened. I finally realized that I had not been touched by another human being for MONTHS!

Sisters, we need touch. With that being said, I’m not saying go out and let a man touch you! Sit back down! 🙂  You may not like what I have to say, but I don’t have a lot of popular views on God’s desires for your lives, do I?  I hope then that you realize that I only say what I truly feel needs to be said.

Ladies, we do need each other. We are nurturers. We need to be able to lean on each other. We need to be hugged. If you stand back and watch women talking to each other, you’ll see hugs, and hands reaching out in concern. You’ll see a woman tuck another woman’s label into the back of her blouse. We TOUCH!

I hope nobody is actually reading this in a sexual way. I am talking about biblically sound caring. Look at Ruth and Naomi.  Ladies, do not lose your friends over a man and do not push other women out of your life. At the time that I broke down in the nail salon, I had gone months without seeing any of my friends. I was bogged down with work, going through the empty-nest syndrome by myself, and the friends I did see, we just didn’t think too much about actually hugging. Don’t put yourself at risk by denying good, Godly women to be your friends. We need each other.

Ruth 1:16 NIV  New International Version But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.