The Christian Post had this article and it breaks my heart!  Seriously…  Sisters, if you are hearing this, remember Isaiah 5:20 says,

“Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil;
Who ^[a]substitute darkness for light and light for darkness;
Who ^[b]substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!”

If you are looking for an excuse to have “blessed sex” outside of marriage, this woman, who calls herself a pastor tries to say it’s OK.  IT IS NOT!  Hear my plea, sisters.  I’m posting this solely to warn you of what to watch for.  This is the Enemy at work

Link to article :  Pastor Who Says Single Christians Can Have ‘Mutually Pleasurable’ Sex Doesn’t See Bible as God’s Infallible Word

In 1 Corinthians 7:9, Paul says, “But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”

A couple of years ago I was talking to a young woman who was facing divorce.  I made a mistake in talking with her.  I had become so focused on “do it God’s way and everything will be fine,” that I was thrown aback when I asked her, “If you had said no to sex before marriage, would you have married at all?”  Most women pause when I ask them this and say, “No. He would not have stuck around long enough to marry.” Usually they immediately see the flaw in what they’ve just said. Yeah… Now there are kids involved and the marriage still failed.

But this time when I asked the question, her response was, “We didn’t have sex before we married.”  I sat there a bit dismayed and unsure how to go forward.  I’d never run across that predicament before.  My next question was, “Did you rush into marriage in order to have sex?”  She thoughtfully said, “Yeah.  Probably.”

So what does Paul mean when he says it is better to marry than to burn with passion?  How many unhappy marriages are there because this scripture was not taken in the correct context?  Paul isn’t saying, “Hurry up and get married because if you keep flirting with the sexual side of your relationship, you’re probably going to sin.”  Remember, he’s urging people to put serving God first and not desire to be married.  That is the point to the whole message.  Put God first!  If you’re rushing into marriage, are you placing God first?  It may feel like it, but perhaps you’re actually circumventing God.  It’s possible that you’re taking His will out of the equation and rushing to the pastor.

Paul is urging everyone to put God first; to serve Him first.  Even when you are married, God should be the head of the union, yes?  If sex was the sole reason for marrying, then God was definitely left out of the equation.  So yes…  there are some (not many) who married as virgins or abstained from sex during the relationship and still wound up totally disappointed and trapped in an unhappy marriage.

The reason I bring this story to you?  I just want to raise awareness that sex may be the icing on the cake of a good marriage, but it’s not the cake.  What if one of you ends up in a wreck and unable to have sex?  What if one of you has a stroke?  Will the other one stick around?  There’s a good chance that if sex was the driving force behind the marriage… the answer may be no.

Food for thought (no pun intended…)  The icing on the cake is anything extra wonderful that God brings to the marriage.  This is why He HAS to be the head of the union.  His will must be sought daily.  And He loves you enough to sacrifice His life for you.  When you honor Him in your decisions, He will use that and what a joy and an honor to be used by the Creator of the Universe, Abba Father!

So many times; as single women, moms, teens; we look at our singleness as a jail sentence.  It’s something that has to be struggled through until Mr. Right rescues us.  Right?

But what if this is a season that God has set aside for you to live, to give, sow seeds into the lives of others?  Maybe you have children, parents, grandchildren, neighbors, grandparents that need you right now.  Is there a gift or a talent that God has gifted you with that He’s expecting you to use?

Once we start seeing our singleness as a chance to give, then instead of feeling lonely every time we’re alone, we start seeing our alone time as a God-given gift; a time to shut down and rest.  Will there still be loneliness?  Sure there will.  But we need to give thanks in all things, amen?

Am I making light of the desire to be married?  No, I’m not.  God gave me a message to give to someone today.  You are not in jail.  You have been set aside for a purpose.  He’s working on you.  Use this time wisely.

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