Month: January 2017

Jesus Wept

/ Honey Gilmer

In John 11:33-35, it says:  (33) Therefore, when Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her weeping, He groaned in the spirit and was troubled. (34) And He said, ‘Where have you laid him?’ They said to Him, ‘Lord, come and see.’ (35) Jesus wept.

The first assumption people jump to is that Jesus was sad because his friend died…  but that doesn’t make sense, does it?

Have you ever had a friend come to you in deep pain and there was little or maybe nothing you could do, but you looked at them through tears; knowing that their pain was so deep that you grieved for them and with them?  I think Jesus wept for the pain of living.  He knew he was bringing Lazarus back, didn’t he?  He understood the pain of those who were living.

He knows your pain, too sister.  Whether you are laying by yourself in a bed and crying, or at a party where everyone’s on a date and you’re smiling and doing your best to enjoy yourself…  He sees you.  He knows what you’re feeling.  Never, ever doubt that.  He loves you that much.

Don’t allow doubt to linger.  You are loved beyond riches.

Sexual Abuse… Guard Your Daughters

/ Honey Gilmer

I just heard some statistics that I’d like to share with the single Moms.

Sexual Abuse Risks state that:

  • For Non-biological married parents (example:  step parents) the chance of a child being sexually abused is 9x the normal risk.
  • For biological parents who are unmarried, the risk is 5x the normal risk.
  • For a single parent (usually the mother) cohabitating with someone, the risk is 20x greater than the normal risk.
  • For a single parent, living alone, the risk is 5 x greater than the normal risk.

For myself, I fell into the first bullet point when I was a child.  My step-father sexually abused me.  So as an unsaved young, single-mom I actually did live with a couple of guys.  My heart stops knowing the risk I put my children in.  Once I accepted Christ and started attending a true, Bible-believing church, I learned very quickly that the best thing I could do for my kids was to stay unmarried until they were out of the house.  I chose to do that and to this day, I’m grateful that I did.  I have no regrets that I was single for almost 19 years.

I go into more detail in my book, which is available on Amazon, among other places.  My first prayer as a born-again Christian was that God take my mistakes and use them; to please not let my pain go to waste.  I’m here to share my mistakes so that at least one person hears.  I’ve taken some virtual punches for my stance on abstaining from sex outside of marriage and I’m willing to take the criticisms and the derogatory remarks because somewhere out there, there may be one woman; one single mother; who needs some direction.  She’s reeling from a divorce or a bad breakup.  I’m here for you and I hear you.

 

God bless all of you, my sisters.  You are loved!